Probably there is no such person who would not have seen in American feature film footage at the wedding. However, the film does not give a complete picture of the ceremony. And many people are concerned about how the American wedding takes place, what customs and traditions are observed in preparation for the celebration and during its direct conduct. Many people are sure that in the US there are no special traditions that would be strictly observed at each ceremony. But this is not the case. Moreover, wedding customs in America, as well as all other festive traditions, people try to observe completely.
How are ceremonies and their traditions in the USA?
American wedding – a list of strict rules to be observed, and a certain order of succession of events. You can't just walk into a chapel and walk out of it as a couple, unless, of course, the bride and groom are in Las Vegas. But this "city of fast marriages" has its own traditions.
Americans are overwhelmingly conservative. This means that for them it is important that the ceremony was not only beautiful but also corresponding to all historically established rules.
How long does it take from the engagement to the ceremony?
How is an American wedding? First, the ceremony consists of two mandatory phases, between which there must be at least six months. Of course, we are talking about the betrothal of the couple and the direct registration of their Union. The time interval between these stages, which did not last six months, is considered a violation of decency. If a couple is in a hurry with the registration of their relationship, then this is the reason for the emergence of various rumors and gossip. As a rule, people begin to think that the bride is pregnant and soon the wedding or registration of her family is trying to "cover up the sin."
Of course, in our time, few people are interested in whether the girl is in a position or not. This rule originated in the days of the first settlers. However, it is still observed. And not only should not hurry up with the wedding but also delay it. If a year passes between the betrothal and the wedding or registration, it is considered a sign of uncertainty about the advisability of concluding a marriage Union or the presence of any obstacles. That is, excessive slowness, as well as hasty, is the reason for human misconceptions. And they, in turn, have a bad impact on the reputation of the bride and groom's families, as well as the spouses themselves.
The optimal time interval between betrothal and registration of the relationship is the period from six to twelve months. As a rule, most Americans marry eight months after the engagement.
Do I have to pay a fee?
The laws in the US are very strict and even tough, especially those that make up "family law" or regulate taxation issues. If in Russia it is enough to pay the fee and bring a receipt confirming this to the registry office, in the US it is much more difficult.
Before the wedding, you must not only pay tax but also go through a number of medical and legal procedures. Their list depends on the age of people who are going to start a family and the state in which they intend to register their relationship. The size of the duties also in every state. As for medical procedures, in most States, this means confirmation of the bride and groom's sanity. Lawyers usually find out whether there are any obstacles to marriage from the law.
The age at which one can marry also depends on the state. Restrictions on the registration of relationships because of old age does not exist, if the couple is in their right mind and does not take strong drugs. But same-sex marriages are not registered in any of the States.
How many rings do you need for a wedding?
Many believe that the ceremony requires only two wedding rings. In many regions, this is really enough, but in the US - no. American tradition requires a minimum of three rings - two females and one male.
However, each jewelry store will offer a man who is going to make an offer of marriage, two options sets. The first option, or as it is called, "set", includes three rings necessary for the ceremony, made in the same style. The second option, "full" consists of four rings. To the basic "configuration", that is, to the three mandatory rings, jewelers add another, spare.
When does the preparation of the celebration begin and end?
American wedding – a celebration very pompous and expensive. Of course, it requires careful preparation. However, you can not begin to prepare for the holiday until such time as the engagement takes place. But to delay the preparation of the celebration, too, should not.
As a rule, to prepare for this event begin a week after the engagement. Completed preparation is considered only after the "dress rehearsal". In other words, before the wedding, the bride and groom, their parents, best man, and friends lose the whole ceremony, including the ceremonial dinner. Of course, they do not have to try all the dishes, but the rehearsal of cutting the birthday cake is mandatory.
All this is carried out on the eve of the bachelor and hen parties, and they mark the end of preparation for the celebration. Curiously, the wedding organizers have nothing to do with the holidays "farewell to the bachelor life." Stag and hen parties traditionally organized by the bridesmaid and the best man of the groom.
What is a wedding scenario? Who makes it?
The classic American wedding scenario is quite simple. It has several mandatory items to which the organizers add anything at the request of the spouses or their relatives.
Required items include:
- the arrival of the groom and best man to the place of marriage;
- the arrival of the bridesmaids and her father;
- placement of the bride in a separate room;
- gathering guests;
- the occupation of the future husband and his witness the position at the altar;
- the exit of the girl by the arm with her father, who leads her to the priest or registrar and retreats, taking up a place in the front row;
- the wedding itself or registration;
- the beginning of the banquet;
- the speech of the father of the bride;
- cutting the cake;
- throwing a bouquet;
- the departure of newlyweds;
- the end of the holiday.
This is the "skeleton" of the celebration. To it is added a lot of intermediate points, which depend not only on the wishes of the couple and their families but also on where it will be held American wedding. For example, at the wedding in the Church will add the item "decoration of the hall." And if the celebration will be held outdoors, you will need tents, portable furniture, and garlands.
The wedding scenario, as well as its organization, as a rule, are entrusted to professionals. In the United States, a lot of agencies involved in the organization of these celebrations. However, if desired, the scenario of the holiday can be trusted to relatives or friends. To organize a wedding on their own is not accepted. It is believed that the bride and groom have many other concerns.
What do you do before the ceremony?
When watching the American holiday sometimes it seems that the groom at the wedding – a very minor figure. Most of the traditions and customs associated with the bride and her relatives, and the future husband, in fact, only say marriage vows and puts on the finger of the girl ring, which he holds out the best man.
During the preparation for the celebration of the groom is also a little that depends. Traditionally, in his "duties" includes the selection or preparation of the texts of the marriage vows. Of course, the purchase of rings - also the care of the future husband.
The bride is busy choosing a dress for herself and her friends, who will surround her at the celebration. Also, it is customary to consult with her in matters of registration of the venue of the holiday.
But all that applies to invitations to the holiday, the bride and groom do together. That is, choose what will be the invitation and determine the range of guests. The full list of guests is given to the wedding organizer by the future spouses. Future newlyweds are personally engaged in sending invitations. Although, this point is not fundamental. If guests are expected very much, but the distribution of invitation can engage and organizers.
What does the bride's father do at the wedding?
The girl's father is one of the main figures at the celebration. In some States, even there are humorous sayings that the holiday may not be the groom, but the bride's father must be present. In that case, if for any reason the girl's father can not take part in the wedding, it is replaced by a senior relative. In this case, the "planted father" takes part in the celebration.
At the end of the last century, a new tradition emerged. The role of "planted father" began to perform the bride's friends, of course, men. There are also cases when these functions are taken over by someone from colleagues.
What does the bride's father do? First, it is he who gives the signal of the beginning of the celebration after he is convinced of the readiness of the groom, guests and, of course, his own daughter. He also brings the bride to the altar, that is, symbolically transfers the right to care for the girl to her future husband.
No American wedding can not do without a festive feast and opens his father's speech bride. This is an unshakable tradition, which is not acceptable to break. If the father is not present at the celebration, the speech is made by an older male relative or the one who led the girl to the altar. To make a speech, opening a Banquet, the mother of the bride is not necessary, because it is considered indecent. There is also a superstition, according to which the opening of the feast, the newly minted mother-in-law promises her constant interference in the lives of the young.