Everything in our life comes and goes: money, work, things. Only people remain with us. Moreover, only those people who are dear to us. And often it’s much closer than relatives and, in some ways, even loved ones, it’s just friends. And today we will talk about what friendship is.
Friendship is an indicator of how interesting, important, and valuable each other is. The main quality indicators of friendship are such things as trust, tolerance, mutual understanding, mutual respect, the ability to meet and help, to be near in a difficult situation. True friendship is much more than just pleasant communication in a fun company. This is even a kind of mystery between people.
True friends, thanks to the fact that they know each other perfectly (and sometimes for some other reasons) can understand each other at a distance, without words, by the movement of hands, the expression of eyes, facial expressions, gestures. Sometimes it even happens that friends who have passed together "fire, water, and copper pipes" have some invisible, like a telepathic connection: one can know what the other is thinking, the second can predict the actions of the first, etc.
A friend is someone who cares about you. The one who shows attention to you, supports, participates in your life, is not indifferent to your emotions, problems, successes, victories, and defeats. A friend is one who shuts up any of his points of view and goes towards not for his own good, but for you - his friend.
The significance and value of friendship are that everyone can rely on the other in any situation or provide the necessary support and assistance. In friendships reigns loyalty, perseverance, equality, understanding, acceptance of each other with all the positive features and shortcomings. And if, for example, in a love relationship there may be disagreements and misunderstandings, because of which two people can break up, friendly relations do not accept this. And even in those cases when one, so to speak, invests in friendship more than the second, the feeling of friendship remains mutual and confidence in the other person remains.
When people are friends, each of them without hesitation will survive with the other as a moment of joy and happiness, and difficult situations, troubles, and failures. In friendship, everyone understands that he plays a very important role in the life of another. That is why friends trust each other with their plans, dreams, thoughts, ideas, secrets and sometimes even life. The greater and deeper the trust and respect between people, the stronger and stronger their friendship. It cannot be measured by the amount of money or merit. It's priceless. And only a true friend, if he really is in your life, makes you understand that you are not alone, and gives strength. This is a person for all occasions.
Friendship also shows the inner strength of a person, his qualities. And often this is what becomes an indicator because a person manifests himself. People who have not passed the test of strength, move from the category of friends in the category of good friends, and sometimes in the category of those with whom you just once was familiar, and now you have absolutely nothing. If there is someone in life whom you really feel, with whom you can be yourself without wearing masks, and who understands you and always helps you out, this person must be your true friend. And relations with him should be protected and stored because they are truly more expensive than gold.
A friend cannot be chosen - he just becomes a friend. It doesn’t matter what his appearance, habits, or worldview are. You may not like something about him, you can even criticize him from time to time. But when all the beautiful and good run away somewhere and wave their hand, when none of them have time for you, it is this person who will be with you and will do something for which no one else had the strength, desire or courage.
Friendship is a test. In appearance, it may seem that it does not require effort, care, and protection. In fact, it will never exist without our direct participation, because to treat another even better than yourself – this is a great thing. It is for this reason that we can safely say that friendship has its own special laws, no matter how strange, too loud or naive it may sound. These life principles are the conditions for the existence of friendships. And they must be respected by everyone who wants to have a friend or friends, and who considers himself a true friend.
Laws of friendship
Faith in Friendship
Faith in friendship means that one must accept without hesitation or doubt what it is, without requiring any proof or confirmation. This faith is the basis, the foundation of true friendships, on which trust, mutual understanding, mutual assistance and other integral components of friendship will be built.
The education of positive qualities
A person, if he considers himself capable of friendship, should cultivate qualities such as courage, fortitude, willpower, endurance, and many others. Courage implies the purposeful direction of the energy of your feelings and emotions in the right direction, to keep them under control of your consciousness. The power of the spirit is the ability to do things that other people are not capable of, the ability not to bend under the pressure of circumstances. Willpower allows a person to do something against their desires, circumstances, fatigue or reason. And endurance allows you to withstand huge loads, without resorting to the use of any other personal qualities.
All together these and other qualities add up to one strong, stable and integral personality. And if a person could become such a person, then you can rely on him and always be confident in him, which is one of the most important indicators of friendship.
Whatever happens, a true friend is simply obliged to come to the rescue of his friend, to help in any possible way. This should not depend on location, employment, mood or desire. If you find out that your friend is in trouble or needs serious help, you have no choice but to help him in spite of any obstacles.
This law is perhaps the most important. In part, it deals with the issue of mutual assistance, which we discussed above. However, here the help of a friend is revealed to a much greater extent. Self-sacrifice means that a true friend values the friendship and life of another person even more than his own life. And in situations when the life of one is suddenly at stake, the second without regrets will do everything so as to save a friend.
These laws and qualities must be observed, so to speak, subconsciously. I. e. their understanding either is, or it is not. For example, you can’t sit down and say to yourself: "From today I begin to be a friend, that is, I will believe in friendship, to cultivate all sorts of positive qualities, I will always help and, if anything, quickly give my life for a friend." All this should already be in a person, because through this attitude to others is expressed, especially to those whom this person considers his friends.
So, let's summarize. True friendships require the mutual efforts of the people in them. Two people, if they are friends, should treat each other correctly, feel mutual sympathy and desire to help and support each other. But such a relationship should also have a feed from both sides: both should feel the need to communicate, call each other, schedule meetings, make plans, and both should because feedback is very important.
However, there are several non-standard friendships. People can become great friends by getting to know each other online, even without ever seeing each other in real life. Some are friends from a distance. For example, one lives in India, the other lives in the US, Thailand, Mexico or anywhere else. There are even best friends who can not see each other for several months. This friendship can also be very strong and powerful. It is only important that the attitude be appropriate, because friendship, whatever it may be, is always demanding for both and sets a certain level, which must be met. And even if someone alone takes it all by chance, the friendship will just stick up and eventually come to naught.
Therefore, always remember your friends, wherever you are and wherever they are. Keep in touch with them, let them know that they are important to you. And most importantly, be prepared to be there in any foreseeable and unforeseen situation.