Every nation has its own wedding customs. They are an integral part of the General national culture. In some countries, stag and hen parties are held, where the bride and groom separately violently say goodbye to their "free" life. In other countries there are traces of rudiments of sales of girls by the father.
Let's see what is a Chechen wedding. It is very different from any known to us. And not because in Chechnya Muslims live and the young couple are not a priest, and a Mullah. These results are not the religious and national ceremonies. There are similar in Georgia, which is a Christian country. So how should behave Caucasian bride and groom? Study the issue.
The rudiments of old family relationships
We are now accustomed to the fact that young people get acquainted themselves and the decision to join themselves in marriage, they take on their own. Some couples live together and before the registry office, often making out the relationship already in the third trimester of pregnancy of the bride. But such libertine cohabitation in a Patriarchal society was not welcome. Before marriage, did the groom's parents, and the young before the wedding might not be familiar. In the Caucasus, apparently, the custom of bride kidnapping was widespread. Therefore, the girl's parents should not be radiant with joy – they are prescribed to be sad.
The "kidnapped" itself should also be held as a victim. She is instructed to stand in a special corner, not sitting down, not to eat or drink. Certain hardships imposes Chechen wedding ceremony and the groom. He was believed to have broken the law by kidnapping the girl. So the bridegroom celebrated in separate room, surrounded by only close friends. But, of course, modernity leaves its mark on customs. The bride does not puts the horseman in a bag and not taking on the prancing horse. White dress, veil, bouquet, children, scattering flower petals - all this paraphernalia also takes place. But the customs, albeit in a transformed form, still remained. How is this? Let's watch all the rituals of the traditional Chechen wedding.
In the bride's house
On the appointed day to the dwelling of the young cortege drove. It must be the groom, his brother and sister, a Mullah and a few distinguished men. Mullah appoints the amount of kalym (bride price). It is considered good practice that the groom's side gives more. After talking with the bride's father, Mullah goes to the female half. There he asks the consent of the girl herself. The witnesses are two adults and preferably married women. After reading the surahs from the Quran, Mullah goes to the groom and asks his consent to the marriage. So young people become husband and wife.
The bride's dowry should have been Packed by then, and she herself is dressed in a wedding dress. The groom's brother takes her out of the room. But then his path is blocked by the relatives of the bride, preferably her sister. The groom's brother must pay them off with gifts. The bride is seated in the car prepared for her. With her shrunk sister of the groom, as it's impossible for a girl to be alone in the company of men! On the way, the race begins: after all, the passengers of the car, which will drive up to the groom's house after the bride's car, receive expensive gifts. On the road can be stretched ropes. So the children try to beg for their piece of candy and money.
In the groom's house
The bride meets her mother-in-law. She gives her a bite of candy and takes in a special corner where the poor girl has to stand all evening. The groom, the sounds of rifle shots (they should scare off evil spirits) takes place with close friends in a private room, where they drink and eat. Other guests gather in a large room. The holiday is led by the groom's parents. They accept gifts, listen to congratulations.
The role of the bride is only to hold a little boy in her arms. Chechens believe that this will give birth to a woman's sons. Only at the end of the first day of the wedding is the ceremony of "unleashing the language." Men approach the bride and jokingly ask her to give them water. She has to break down and keep quiet. In the end, she serves a glass with the words "Enjoy your drink." Taking water should give the bride a decent amount of money.
"Reconciliation with the bride's inconsolable parents"
A month after the wedding, the young husband must appear in his wife's father's house "guilty." There he stands like a statue in the corner while his parents are negotiating with matchmakers. After the exchange of gifts is considered that peace is achieved. However, we note that the groom stands in the corner only an hour, while the girl – from noon till night. And it's in a dress, jewelry, heels. She doesn't eat or drink. What about natural needs? After all, she's a living person. I personally believe that human rights should prevail over popular customs.