The process of matchmaking among the Chechens is that a young man makes a girl an offer of marriage. If she agrees, then gives the young man ring or headscarf. This talisman means that she is now busy – betrothed. Optionally in the presence of relatives of the bride and groom agree on the appointment of the celebration of the wedding. To start the wedding, which lasts three days, choose Wednesday, Saturday or Sunday, usually after sowing or harvesting. Chechen weddings are an important event in the life of not only the main actors and their parents, but also the whole village. Final approval for their conduct give to the elders. They will also make sure that the customs of the Chechen wedding, which is called Lovzar, are observed.
As soon as the consent of the elders is obtained, begins its work a kind of wedding headquarters, which includes, as a rule, relatives and close friends of the groom. They must thoroughly paint the whole scenario of the celebration to the smallest detail. Chechen weddings are real theatrical performances. And all roles must be pre-allocated. Up to that who where will stand and what to speak. It is necessary not to offend any of the guests and properly observe the tradition.
Chechen wedding custom begins with the fact that the groom's friends take her from her parents' home. As is often the case in the traditions of other Nations, for dressed in a luxurious white wedding dress bride demand a ransom. Friends pay its first elders, who appointed elders of the village, at the bride's home. The amount of this ransom, dowry is negotiated in advance. And then friends and relatives of the bride still block the path of the motorcade with ropes until they receive a ransom.
Then the bride solemnly driven by car through the village to the groom's house. Chechen weddings passing by have long been welcomed with shots in the air.
On the porch the bride is waiting for her future husband's mother with a Cup of sweets in her hands. But before the meeting with her future mother-in-law, she will face another test. On the threshold of the groom's house specially laid out Mat (before it was a burka) and a broom. It is believed that if the bride carefully removes these items to the side – it is smart. If she just steps over – she's stupid. Then the mother of the groom treats and invites the future daughter-in-law to the house, showering her with sweets. Here the girl is seated in a place of honor and bring a male child, as a rule, the first-born of one of the guests of honor. She must take him in her arms and play with him. This custom of the Chechen wedding is a symbolic wish for young people to give birth to healthy children, preferably boys.
Begins the feast, which did not participate neither the groom nor the bride. On the first day, the groom traditionally spends outside the house, having fun with his friends. The bride is in the house of the groom, but she should not sit down on this day and speak first with friends and relatives of the groom. Chechen wedding is not primarily a feast, and the wedding dances. All the celebration is accompanied by the music of guest artists and dancing guests. Every Chechen learns to dance as soon as he starts walking. A man who does not know how to dance is considered uncultured and even to some extent defective. Chechen weddings, due to the difficult situation of recent times, try to ensure the safety of all participants. The main guest of honor, as well as his assistants, ensures that there are no conflicts among young people.
Chechen wedding tradition lasts three days. On the morning of the third day, guests lead the bride to the pond. To lure the water, the groom's friends throw cakes into the water, and then shoot them. The bride collects water and carries it to the house – now it is forever protected from water. Registration of marriage is also only the third wedding day. The bride acquires the status of wife and young mistress of the house.