Korean wedding is not just a union of two loving hearts, but a real mystery, full of various traditional rituals. This is a real Union of two families. Very well describes wedding traditions and the obligatory rituals that must be present at every wedding in this nation, the Korean drama "Wedding". It carefully observed all the nuances of the traditional celebration. Many famous Korean dramas "The Great wedding", "Wedding planner" and the other is very detailed, reveals all the details and ceremonies of traditional weddings in Korea, ranging from the Dating of young families and ending with the post-wedding traditions.
When is it customary for Koreans to start a family?
The specificity of the Korean people is that conservative views on life are alien to them, and therefore most of the citizens consider strange and abnormal those people who are not married by the age of 30. Usually in Korea, it is customary to be burdened with the bonds of marriage at the age of 24-27 years, this age is ideal to have time to achieve something in life and take care of a dowry to create a family.
If by this age young people do not yet have a couple, then friends and relatives begin to take an active part in the search for a future husband or wife for them. Very common in Korea, the services of professional matchmakers, who select the most profitable candidates, guided not only by the external data of future partners but also the material condition of each of them, as well as human qualities. This is justified by the fact that the Koreans decided to create a family once and for all, and they perceive divorce as something out of the ordinary.
The acquaintance of the parents of the young before the wedding
Despite the fact that Korea is quite a progressive and developed country, and young people there have long had the right to choose their second half, which is planned to link life, there is one tradition. It's called "Somethin" and implies a meeting of parents of both newlyweds to discover each other.
This tradition is not just an act of politeness, at such a meeting discusses the future of the young, and how to participate in it will take each of the parents, also discussed financial wedding issues. In addition, at such meetings, parents can exchange certificates of medical examination of their children, because Koreans are quite serious about the birth of healthy offspring.
There is one more nuance, which is necessarily discussed at such meetings, is the family origin of the future spouses - PON. PON is a family estate, which is inherited by the male line and is a kind of settlement Association. If it turns out that the newlyweds from one PON, they will not be able to marry, and in this case, everything is canceled. If the young from different Pons, with their health all right, and the parents were able to come to a general agreement on the organization of the wedding and the fate of the future of the family, then soon the bride sent matchmakers.
Matchmaking Korean bride
Matchmakers must be the father and uncle of the groom, as well as several of his friends. The main feature is an odd number of people, in addition, among the matchmakers should not be divorced people, so that their family misfortune is not passed on to the young.
Matchmakers should be a different cheerful character, be able to joke, dance and sing. According to Korean traditions, being a matchmaker is a very honorable thing. The group should come to the house to the bride's parents to discuss the upcoming wedding and the subsequent joint life of the young spouses. It is very popular in Korea to organize a special mini-wedding instead of courtship - "chenchi", which, in fact, is a rehearsal of the main wedding ceremony or the bride. Chenchi - this is a kind of test of the groom's strength, because all the guests who will be present at it, just have to constantly ask the groom tricky questions and release pointed jokes at him.
Before the Korean wedding begins, there is a bride price. Most people believe this tradition is truly Slavic, but in fact, the Koreans, it also exists for a long time. Before the ransom for the groom in his father's house arrange a ritual in which he expresses his gratitude to his parents. First, the whole family gathers at the table and tries various treats, after which the groom kneels, bows at the feet of his parents and expresses his gratitude to them.
After that, the groom and his entourage go to the bride's house. There he must first give the mother of the bride a pair of wooden statues of geese, as these birds are a symbol of happy family life. In addition to the mother, the groom must meet the next of kin of the bride, sisters or brothers, to whom he is also obliged to give gifts. And then the groom will definitely be able to get to the bride's room, where he will be expected by her father. There will also have to pay a ransom, but it will be much more, but if the groom fun and eloquent matchmakers, it is likely that the bride he will be able to pick up and free.
Bride's visit to the groom's house
After redemption, the bride's dowry is given to the groom in the presence of the entire Suite of the young. Also, the bride's parents give her life guidance and advice on family life.
Every parent tries to make their children have the best Korean wedding. Koreans have such a wedding tradition as visiting the groom's house with the bride and her dowry, which means that she is now also part of his family. On the threshold of the house must lie a bag of rice, because the Koreans rice symbolizes a full life. The bride came to the house mother-in-law must cross through the bag and gently follow the trail of silk that trail especially before her arrival. This path is a symbol of wealth and prosperity.
The bride's dowry must necessarily include a mirror because it is in this mirror that the bride and mother-in-law must look together during her arrival at the groom's house so that in the future there will never be quarrels and disagreements between them. When the bride had entered the house, and her mother-in-law took it, you can bring and dowry girl.
Korean Wedding Venue
As a venue for the ceremonial part usually chooses the bride's house. Both newlyweds should be in traditional wedding dresses – hanbok. The bride on her hanbok necessarily wears a short vest with long sleeves, and the hanbok groom traditionally should be blue. Also, the bride on the face pastes special red dots on the cheeks one and one on the forehead. In the courtyard of the house is equipped with a ceremonial area, where the young get separately on special wedding niches "gamma", which are traditionally decorated with flowers, preferably peonies as a symbol of health and happy life together. After the official conclusion of marriage, the young bow low to each other and drink wine from glasses that the bride's mother should make herself from a pumpkin grown in her garden.
Features and traditions at the wedding
The main feature of the Korean wedding is that her newlyweds do not kiss at all, as it is not only not accepted in the country, but also strictly prohibited by law. A kiss is usually replaced by eating one date or marmalade at a time. Also, according to the Korean wedding etiquette, during the wedding ceremony, all guests without exception must be wearing white gloves.
Also, a distinctive feature of Korean weddings is an incredibly large number of guests, at least two hundred. It is believed that the more people come to the wedding, the higher her status. Celebration with a huge number of guests, not always even familiar with each other, is considered an indicator of wealth and luxury. Despite a large number of mandatory wedding ceremonies, traditional Korean wedding does not last long, because all the actions are painted literally every minute, Koreans are not fans of long and protracted festivities.
Wedding Banquet at the Korean wedding at the present time is not much different from the Banquet at weddings European format. Many traditions, unfortunately, for many decades have been missed. Many Korean celebrity weddings are exclusively European in nature with a standard exit ceremony and Banquet in the style of a buffet, the whole event is very modest and restrained. Many newlyweds like to invite to their wedding famous musicians for a pleasant musical accompaniment of the celebration. As usual for our people entertainment at the Banquet is not, and toastmaster Korean wedding does not provide. Usually, it is replaced with close relatives or parents themselves who can sing, dance or show various funny sketches to guests.
As for the menu and dishes that must be present at the wedding table of the Koreans, there are several mandatory dishes: noodles and rooster. The presence of noodles is necessary because it is a symbol of a long life together newlyweds. In the beak of the bird is usually inserted a whole red chili pepper, decorated with colorful threads and shiny tinsel, as the pepper according to Korean beliefs protects against evil spirits, colorful tinsel is a symbol of bright life of future spouses.
The rooster at the Korean wedding must be boiled whole, and it is served to the table. Many banquets are traditional dishes such as the ttok, bulgogi, and kalbi. Recently, however, the presence of European dishes on Korean wedding tables has become increasingly visible.
After the wedding
Traditionally, the day after the Korean wedding, the young wife should get up early in the morning, preferably the very first, and be sure to cook rice for the whole family and the upcoming guests. In addition, it should be a good clean throughout the apartment, and if the family moved after the wedding to live in the house, it means throughout the house and in the yard near it. This is all done because usually at lunch in the house to the newlyweds come to visit close relatives and parents from the groom to see which of the bride turned hostess. The young wife, in turn, is obliged to present gifts to each of the guests, who must be prepared in advance by her parents.
What do you give young people at a wedding in Korea?
In today's world, Korean weddings, traditions, and customs which exist for centuries are increasingly beginning to adopt European trends. This is reflected in the gifts that are usually given to a young wedding. To date, the newlyweds at the wedding decided to give an envelope with money, the amount will depend on how respectful guests to the young, and how he is happy with their Union.
Since over the past few decades, the tradition began to gradually fade into the background, and at first, came the material values, to say that it is in addition to the money you can give to the young at the Korean wedding, it is quite difficult. The groom's parents usually have to give the young couple an apartment or a house where they could live as a separate family, and the bride's parents should this house or apartment is fully landscaped. Also, close relatives of the young couple can make gifts that will be useful to the newlyweds in everyday life: watches, dishes and so on.